Learn to flow with change, relax into life, and stay flexible, letting go of what isn't your responsibility.
This is how you relax into your true nature, letting all thoughts and emotions naturally subside and dissolve into the state of the nature of mind.
It is also helpful for the giver to not expect anything in return, but simply allow the receiver to enjoy the massage and to relax into herself.
Once you realize no one can take who you are or change who you are, then you will relax into your rhythm and your relationships will be more fulfilling.
